Remembering a Friend

Last week a friend and colleague passed away. This was a guy who would smile no matter the circumstances. He was a very proud father to twin boys. At times he would work so late that he would sleep in the office and the next day, yup, you guessed it, he would be smiling. “It’s no big deal.” He would say. He was a hard worker and he was a great talker. He did not take the typical nonverbal cues that a conversation needed to end. Many conversations I ended, the only problem is now I want to continue those conversations. So many things left to talk about. We only get to go around the sun so many times. No one knows how many times we get. I have faith in the Creator who knows my span of life, but He will not tell me what that span is. I only know that I am to make the most of the time He has given me.

So my friend and colleague has me examining my life. Do I live out my faith? Do I make the most of each situation and sprinkle everything with love and compassion? Do I consider things, “No big deal”? My faith teaches that the hard times are momentary afflictions. That is how my friend appeared to treat life. I often see things not as momentary afflictions, but as troublesome times that I need to correct.

I believe each life has value. I am uncertain that I live this way. When someone wants to talk, do I give that person my time and attention? I want the answer to be yes, but all I can truly do is to ensure that is what my present self does. I cannot go back and complete those conversations, I cannot go listen to what my kid said yesterday. I must listen now. I only truly have now, and I must make the most of it, by showing love to my fellow humans.

Reasons Why

Why do you exercise? Or maybe I should ask, why do you not exercise? I heard Chalene Johnson say that exercise is what you do when you love yourself. Do you love yourself enough to exercise? How about your children? Many people I have met started taking time to exercise not so much for themselves, but for their children. So that they would have the energy to be there and share experiences with their children.

Late afternoon tomorrow, my family and I will go camping. I have an exercise program that I am in the middle of. So here will the deciding factor as to how determined I am to stick with this program. I will have every excuse to not do it. I will be walking a lot, I don’t believe there is an inside facility to use. So I’ll be exercising in the somewhat open space. I’ve done every workout once so I have an idea how to do them. So that shouldn’t be too embarrassing. But will I get up in the morning and actually press play? I have my Facebook friends I’ve been reporting to. I’ve talked about every exercise beginning the second week. I must keep that up. I must make this transformation work. I must prove to myself and others that this can be done. This is hard work, but it is doable. You just have to want it. You have to decide to do it, commit to doing it, and then you will succeed. That is the tagline of Beachbody, Decide. Commit. Succeed. I want to succeed. I want to no longer be that guy who is in OK shape, but usually has a bit of a belly. That guy who keeps his waist size right around the at risk size for heart disease. I want to be far away from all of those indicators. I want to be able to play with my great-grandchildren. I want to be a 90 year old who helps the 70 year olds in the assisted living and refers to them as kid. I want to be that guy. I want exceptional health.

I can get into so much here, this is why I changed my eating from medium prime rib to vegan. This is why I study theology. This is why I became a Beachbody coach.  Health now and in the future is what is driving me to do many of the things I do. I think it was the Rolling Stones who said, “If we had known we would live this long, we would have taken better care of our bodies.” This is a good lesson. I’m planning to live a long time. If I die tomorrow, it will all be OK. I know that health and fitness may not add years to my life, but it will add life to my years. I need this fitness now to enjoy my children, and I want it in the future for their children and their children’s children.

Does anybody else have this kind of view of health?


I walked a labyrinth the other day. God was showing me how life is like a labyrinth. It seems like a maze and we often think we are lost. We end up stopping to look around, because we do not realize the path we are on was designed to be followed to the end. Sometimes people even stop, say “This is confusing” and leave the path. Persistence is the key. Jesus told a parable of a woman who kept asking for justice (Luke 18:1-8). This is a story of persistence. We should not stop because things look hard, we should not stop because others tell us we are crazy, we should not even stop because we think things are crazy. We do not stop until the goal is reached, and then the wise advice will be to set new goals and keep on. If we are not making any progress, we look for help, we do not stop. The difference between a successful person and an unsuccessful person is persistence. The widow Jesus told about would not have gotten justice if she would have asked once or twice and stopped. She only received justice because the judge realized she would not stop. This is what we need to do with whatever we are pushing toward. Let our career, our fitness, the industry, whatever, realize that we will not stop until it has yielded to us.